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The Quest for a Mate’s Approval
By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 23 November 2015 - 0 Comments

One of the great benefits of a committed relationship is the security of being loved, accepted and cherished by our mate. The knowledge that our bond is safe, secure and love-based keeps us contented [...]

The Suffering of Compassionate People
By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 16 November 2015 - 0 Comments

Our culture holds compassionate people in high regard. The kind teacher who helps a struggling student, the Emergency Medical Responders who rescue accident and trauma victims, Police men and women who routinely encounter human [...]

How Pets Enrich Our Lives
By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 11 November 2015 - 0 Comments

Most people react positively to endearing pets. Cats and dogs, the most popular family pets, enchant both young and old members of the family and even endear themselves to some strangers they encounter. Aside [...]

Gratitude Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 01 November 2015 - 0 Comments

Most individuals are appreciative of their mate’s accommodating, kind and considerate behaviors. They may thank their partner for the helpful deed or words and feel satisfied that they have appropriately affirmed the mate for [...]

How to Develop Greater Empathy for Your Mate
By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 27 October 2015 - 0 Comments

This column’s topic was spurred by a reader’s question about how to develop empathy after having been told by several dates that his non-empathic responses rendered him an unsuitable mate. It is likely that [...]

Neutralizing Arguments in Relationships
By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 19 October 2015 - 0 Comments

It is not uncommon for many couples to find themselves in adversarial positions in discussing issues of concern to one or both of them. The desire for need fulfillment, personal validation and reaffirmation of [...]

The Social and Emotional Bonding Between Women
By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 19 October 2015 - 0 Comments

The connection between women has it’s own unique style with biological, survival, and health benefits that have evolved throughout the years and are distinctively different from male bonding. Both men and women are aware [...]

By: Offra Gerstein, Ph.D. - 04 October 2015 - 0 Comments

It is common for people who are dissatisfied with their relationship to ascribe their discomfort to their partner’s faults, failures, personality demerits or displeasing conduct. Though these factors may certainly contribute to relationship disharmony, [...]