Tools for Couples Happiness'
Detecting deception in intimate relationships
Having a truthful and honest relationship with a partner is a basic expectation of pairs. Most partners believe that they know their beloved well enough to detect lying or deception, should it occur. When they discover [...]
Can your partner make you a better person?
Some individuals credit their mates with making them better beings. Though this attribution is very flattering, is it accurate? Can people actually alter others’ essence and conduct? Being a better person often means transitioning from a [...]
Can you make your spouse happy?
It is common for people to believe and state that their spouses make them happy. Can anyone actually make another person happy, and if so, how can you do it? In the late 1990’s Psychologist Martin [...]
Why some men leave their wives
Commonly cited and accepted explanations for why some men leave their wives include: The allure of restored youthfulness offered by a younger, adoring female, the appeal of feeling omnipotent and powerful; the seduction of forbidden sex; [...]
Why do we shame the one we love?
Shame is a profoundly painful emotion aroused within us in response to our internal negative assessment of our conduct or being. Since it serves to safeguard our moral conduct it is harsh and punitive. Knowing how [...]
Is love mostly sweet?
Falling in love with that “special” person is a highly desirable goal for most people. It is a glorious experience that is shrouded with mystique, magic, and elation that affirms our uniqueness and desirability. But, is [...]
An effective decision-making model for couples
Making decisions is a hard process for individuals and even harder for couples. The mass of information, possibilities, hazards and potential outcomes are difficult enough for any person to sort out. Adding personality variances of pairs [...]
Love your partner in his/her way
We are all accustomed to viewing the needs of others as reflections of our own. We assume, with kind intentions, that what pleases us is also satisfying to those we love. Yet, due to our individual [...]
The formula for commitment within marriage
Most couples begin their relationship with an enthusiastic commitment to each other’s happiness and wellbeing. With time, many pairs lose their way in maintaining this mutually pleasing emphasis and often allow their partnership to deteriorate and [...]
Is anxiety helpful or hurtful to your marriage?
Anxiety is the state of unease in anticipation of real or perceived challenges. It heightens our vigilance about risks and propels us to work harder toward attaining our goals. Is anxiety within a committed relationship of [...]
When winning ends up losing
Everyone loves to win. Whether the win is of a game, prize, contest, sport, legal matter, lottery, promotion, prized mate, or any other physical or intellectual achievement that the winner is blessed to receive. There is [...]
Do politics impact your relationship?
With the election looming large and emotions running high, it is interesting to consider the impact of diverging views of couples who do not share the same political opinion. Is your political perspective a potential source [...]
Can money buy you marital happiness?
The debate about whether money can buy happiness is ongoing. There are many conflicting studies about whether the poor or the rich are existentially happier. Within any marriage, money may not buy happiness but may potentially [...]
Are soul mates found or created?
Finding not only a good partner but also a soul mate is an appealing romantic notion. Since this concept is so enticing, those who think that they have not been matched with their soul mate may [...]
Too tired for sex?
Fatigue is a common explanation offered by mates who decline their partner’s invitation for sex. Exhaustion is, indeed, a condition that quells the desire to expend additional energy. Yet, the benefits of pushing through the fatigue [...]
Resolving marital betrayal
Feeling betrayed by a mate is profoundly devastating. Betrayal is usually associated with infidelity, but even in its absence, emotional betrayal creates great pain and deep marital discord. Knowing how to manage episodes of betrayal is [...]
Trade anger for love
Anger is the reaction to a perceived threat. It alerts us to take steps to safeguard our physical or emotional security. In relationships, invoked anger affects both partners and may curtail their happiness. But is it [...]
Making love last
Some people believe that good relationships are a fortunate state – not an earned one. Others acknowledge the needed efforts to maintain couple’s happiness and state that they are “working on their relationship”. How can couples [...]
Turn your head around – to find deeper love
Mulling over a partner’s shortcomings is natural for unhappy spouses. Though this may be an attempt to seek a resolution, it only exacerbates misery. Learning to think differently can positively impact both of you and lead [...]
How to support your partner in times of stress
Feeling stressed about work, money, time management, children, family and life demands is a common experience for most adults. A certain amount of stress serves us well but when we become overwhelmed, paralyzed, ineffective or agitated [...]
