Bond through life passages'

Managing the seasons of your marriage – Part I

Managing the seasons of your marriage – Part I

Like in nature, marriages and committed relationships cycle through four seasons: Spring, Summer, Fall and Winter. Though our weather preferences are clear, we all adapt to and benefit from seasonal climate fluctuations as we do from [...]

Life crises can strengthen your bond with each other

Life crises can strengthen your bond with each other

It is commonly assumed that relationship crises weaken the fiber of love between committed partners. It is true for some issues but not others. Verbal/physical abuse, chronic infidelity and untreated addictions often do destroy relationships. Yet, [...]

Empty nesters, rededicate yourselves to each other

Empty nesters, rededicate yourselves to each other

From birth until parenting, people are self-oriented. Once they have a family their children’s wellbeing becomes their primary focus. As fulfilling and pleasurable as child rearing may be, it distracts parents from their own individual and [...]

Dealing with women’s nurturing burnout

Dealing with women’s nurturing burnout

Women, by the gift of childbearing capacity, have been destined to become society’s primary nurturers. The lifelong practice of putting other people’s needs ahead of their own is exhausting, depleting and often leading to a nurturing [...]

During Stressful times stay positive while balancing emotions and logic

During Stressful times stay positive while balancing emotions and logic

During Stressful times, stay positive while balancing emotions, logic “Tis the season to be jolly”, but for many people this challenging period is anything but cheerful. When the economy is down, jobs are lost, housing issues [...]

When times get tough, find your strength in your mate

When times get tough, find your strength in your mate

The current economic conditions have given rise to a marked increase in anxiety for Americans. High gas prices, the collapsed mortgage industry, housing worries, the erratic downturn fluctuations on wall street, tight credit, banking woes, and [...]

How to get your partner to help you shoulder the load

How to get your partner to help you shoulder the load

A common source of discontent in relationships is the perceived imbalance of shared responsibilities. When one, or both mates feel disgruntled about doing more than their fair share, the relationship is seriously impacted. Creating a mutually [...]

Managing emotions in families during cancer treatments

Managing emotions in families during cancer treatments

This column is based on a talk I gave to cancer patients and their families at the Katz Resource Center at Dominican Hospital in Santa Cruz California, and includes attendees’ comments and wisdom. When you or [...]