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Maintaining compassion during another’s distress

Maintaining compassion during another’s distress

Those who veer from standard behavior are likely to arouse bewilderment, fear and criticism by observers. Any unanticipated conduct by another driver, passenger, colleague or acquaintance that destabilizes us and evokes fear, anger or unrighteousness, will [...]

What’s the Truth About Lying in a Marriage

What’s the Truth About Lying in a Marriage

The dictionary definition of lying is “To speak falsely or utter untruth knowingly as with intent to deceive, to express what is false or convey a false impression.” It is an option available to all individuals [...]

The Quest for a Mate’s Approval

The Quest for a Mate’s Approval

One of the great benefits of a committed relationship is the security of being loved, accepted and cherished by our mate. The knowledge that our bond is safe, secure and love-based keeps us contented and emotionally [...]

Gratitude Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Gratitude Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Most individuals are appreciative of their mate’s accommodating, kind and considerate behaviors. They may thank their partner for the helpful deed or words and feel satisfied that they have appropriately affirmed the mate for his/her efforts. [...]

How to Develop Greater Empathy for Your Mate

How to Develop Greater Empathy for Your Mate

This column’s topic was spurred by a reader’s question about how to develop empathy after having been told by several dates that his non-empathic responses rendered him an unsuitable mate. It is likely that a less [...]

Is Human Behavior Elective or Pre-determined?

Is Human Behavior Elective or Pre-determined?

Recent news of violence by policemen re-sparked the discussions of the appropriateness of authority figures’ conduct. The courts will ultimately determine these questions on a case-by-case basis. Is there an overriding perspective that can best guide [...]

Validating Others is a Win-Win Practice

Validating Others is a Win-Win Practice

One of the most common complaints expressed by mates during couple therapy is that one or both do not feel valued, respected, appreciated or positively regarded by the other. Why would these attributes command such a [...]

The Secrets to a Happy, Healthy Marriage

The Secrets to a Happy, Healthy Marriage

Why do some marriages survive, thrive or fail? The secrets to a healthy and satisfying long-term union between two committed partners have intrigued many individuals and researchers alike. Various psychological, developmental, relational and situational factors have [...]