Conflicts'
Detecting deception in intimate relationships
Having a truthful and honest relationship with a partner is a basic expectation of pairs. Most partners believe that they know their beloved well enough to detect lying or deception, should it occur. When they discover [...]
Why some men leave their wives
Commonly cited and accepted explanations for why some men leave their wives include: The allure of restored youthfulness offered by a younger, adoring female, the appeal of feeling omnipotent and powerful; the seduction of forbidden sex; [...]
When winning ends up losing
Everyone loves to win. Whether the win is of a game, prize, contest, sport, legal matter, lottery, promotion, prized mate, or any other physical or intellectual achievement that the winner is blessed to receive. There is [...]
Do politics impact your relationship?
With the election looming large and emotions running high, it is interesting to consider the impact of diverging views of couples who do not share the same political opinion. Is your political perspective a potential source [...]
Temper your conflicts for the sake of your children
Marital conflicts are common and may not be hazardous to the spouses or their children if they are handled well. When parents’ feuds are hostile, aggressive and are not resolved amicably, the impact on the children [...]
How to create consistent harmony throughout your marriage
Committed partners use various styles of interactions. Some couples fight, some debate and argue, others are cordial and distant and there are those who maintain a loving, harmonious attitude throughout years of marriage. How do these [...]
How to diffuse marital fights
Do you believe that once you and your mate start having a strong disagreement it has an irreversible course? Many people believe this to be true and indeed, experience it repeatedly. How would you feel if [...]
Why do lovers fight?
Finding reciprocal love is a true blessing. Lovers delight in adoring each other and relish being fully accepted and cherished by their “other half”. Why then do people who truly love each other resort to having [...]
When are you going to change?
All partners experience some frustrations about their mate’s ways. These annoyances are expected, repetitious and unavoidable and may either contaminate the joy in the relationship or may be handled gracefully. The easy going, pleasurable and trouble-free [...]
How couples can mediate their everyday disputes
Mediation is the process of facilitating a resolution between parties who are at odds. A mediator helps negotiate an agreement between two or more disputants through respectful listening, an impartial, unemotional, logical assessment of the conflict [...]
Befriend each other’s memory of past conflicts
Why do partners, who attempt to resolve a conflict by rehearsing the events that led to it, often end up escalating their discord rather than decreasing it? Why do some mates avoid talking about problems believing [...]
What couples conflicts are really about may surprise you
Most people believe that fights in love relationship stem from varying needs, miscommunication patterns, early family programming, or undesirable personal traits. Though all these factors may exacerbate couples’ conflicts, the core of the problem is a [...]
Overcoming painful memories of former love relationships
Some partners complain about paying for the “sins” of their current mate’s former partner’s behavior. They resent the attribution of the negative conduct or intent to them that their partner endured in a previous love relationship. [...]
Couples conflicts are inevitable- rifts are avoidable
Many couples feel distress about having disagreements about their dissimilar reactions to life. Some erroneously believe that these are signs of being poorly matched. Actually, the annoyance about some of the mate’s ways is normal – [...]
What couples really fight about (Part 2) Fighting is really about acceptance and esteem
Fights, by definition, are the opposite of harmonious discussions. Fights occur between enemies, not lovers. The goal in a fight is to conquer, subjugate or even eliminate the opponent, none of which is appropriate for healthy [...]
What do couples really fight about? (Part 1)
Fights between partners are the unsuccessful outcome of verbal exchanges designed to create understanding and compromise. Despite the mutual positive intent, the discourse derails and turns the loving mates into adversaries. Greater understanding of the causes [...]
How to best negotiate the household chores
A common area of discontent among couples regards the division of household chores. Usually both mates advance reasonable explanations as to why they feel that they do more than their ‘fair share’, yet both are unhappy [...]
How to change your annoying habits
During courtship most couples accept each other as they are, but this state of contentment does not last. With time most mates accumulate small annoyances about each other’s ways. How couples handle these lightweight frustrations impacts [...]
How couples can deal with reoccurring conflicts
Most couples can easily cite their areas of reoccurring conflict. They know the topics, their differences, the details of the conversation they have and the unpleasant emotions they experience during and after these exchanges. Yet, they [...]
How to resolve financial issues in your relationship
Money is a desirable commodity that most people wish to possess. It evokes many emotions spanning the gamut from lust for riches to disdain and contempt for those who have more. Not only do attitudes vary, [...]
