Managing Feelings'
Is anxiety helpful or hurtful to your marriage?
Anxiety is the state of unease in anticipation of real or perceived challenges. It heightens our vigilance about risks and propels us to work harder toward attaining our goals. Is anxiety within a committed relationship of [...]
How to support your partner in times of stress
Feeling stressed about work, money, time management, children, family and life demands is a common experience for most adults. A certain amount of stress serves us well but when we become overwhelmed, paralyzed, ineffective or agitated [...]
How does anxiety affect your relationship?
We live in stress-inducing times. Public media reminds us daily of a wobbly economy, job scarcity, housing difficulties, social inequities, political feuds, wars, international instability and natural disasters. It is understandable that we feel some anxiety [...]
Why do some intimate partners become physically abusive?
It is always disheartening to encounter loving pairs who report intermittent physical altercations with one another. These couples do love each other and have a shared positive view of their relationship. While some deal with the [...]
How to help your man with his depression
Though men are less likely to develop depression than women, the National Institute of Mental Health estimates that about six million American men suffer from depression every year. These males are less likely than women to [...]
How to manage your jealousy
Jealousy is a common human emotion experienced in love relationships. It is an intense feeling that has been maligned, poorly understood, differently experienced by men and women and may gravely impact those who handle it poorly. [...]
How to recover from our losses
Loss is an integral part of life. It befalls all of us to one degree or another. Shock, grief and pain are common reactions to major and even minor losses. How we manage our grief can [...]
Procrastination delays improving your relationship
Many unhappy couples spend needless months and even years in distress about their relationship, while making no or little effort to remediate their unsatisfactory state. Though they are very clear about their unhappiness, some individuals procrastinate [...]
Withholding hurt feelings is inadvisable
People in committed relationships find themselves hurt at times by the actions or words of their partner. Those who elect to “be nice” by withhold their wounded emotions, are actually not being nice or considerate and [...]
The method that repairs hurtful comments and restores harmony in relationships
Maintaining a satisfying and successful relationship requires ongoing words and actions of love. Even the most compatible and happy mates, on occasion, find that their verbal exchanges do not exhibit their steady respect for each other. [...]
Do Not allow your personal stress to affect your relationship
Life blesses us with many challenges some of which are very stressful. Whether the stress is about difficulties or special events, it is important to solicit your partner’s support rather than have him/her be the brunt [...]
Pleasing your partner need not be at your expense
Couples are encouraged to accommodate each other’s needs as much as possible. This sage recommendation work well when followed, however, for some people caring for the mate is equated with self-abandonment. So how does one balance [...]
Couples can initiate a new beginning
The celebration of a new year often brings joy, excitement, and hope. The joy is about the completion of another year, the excitement is about new things to come and the hope is the anticipation of [...]
How you can benefit from your regrets
Regret is an uncomfortable emotion. It contains loss, missed opportunity, self-reprimand and even grief. The thought of “If only” may spiral you into a painful and even hopeless emotional state. Yet, regrets may also be a [...]
Dealing with the post-wedding blues
As though we needed one more subcategory for depression, recent news reports reviewed a new syndrome, “the postnuptial depression”. Last week’s BBC reported that “It has been estimated that for one in ten new spouses, the [...]
How to deal with a partner who collects hurts
One of the most frustrating relationship issues occurs when one partner repeatedly reminds the other of his or her prior misconduct. When past hurtful behaviors are not apologized for or forgiven, the pair becomes immobilized by [...]
How to recover from mild social upsets
Everyone, at times, witnesses or encounters embarrassing, uncomfortable or awkward moments in a social setting. Once that occurs with a particular individual, a mild unease is associated with that person in future meetings. How can you [...]
The unhealthy pleasure of keeping a grudge
Repairing painful feelings between partners should be a welcomed process. It is sad to see some individuals who relish having been wronged more than they do restoring peace. Ideally, when one partner feels wronged by the [...]
How to reduce emotional hurts in relationships
How to reduce emotional hurts in relationships Even in good and satisfying relationships people may occasionally experience feeling hurt by their partners’ words, action or inaction. It is important for couples to recognize their pattern of [...]
How to deal with rage
How to deal with rage What do some drivers, some parents, some employees, some partners, some divorcing couples, and some victims have in common? They experience the feeling of rage. What causes these intense emotions and [...]
