Divorce'
Coping with being alienated from your child
Dealing with a divorce is traumatic enough. Having to contend with being alienated from your child is torturous. Judith Wallerstein and Joan Kelly first recognized the phenomenon of a child’s rejection of a parent by resisting [...]
How To deal with grief when a partner leaves
Individuals who have been left by a partner often describe severe emotional and physical pain. Learning to cope with this grief is a daunting, but doable task. Grief is the emotional and physiological reaction to an [...]
Alternatives to divorce exist
This article follows a previous column of mine titled Downsides to Divorce, published in the Santa Cruz Sentinel on December 12, 2007 and is also available on my website: relationshipmatters.com under Articles, section F. Divorce Divorce [...]
Downsides to divorce
Though the choice to divorce is rarely impulsive, it is often not fully thought through. Most individuals, who reach this decision, believe that they have given it some time, attempted to improve the marriage, considered the [...]
Recovering from being abruptly left by a partner
Divorce, the outcome of lost connection and hope for change, is a devastating experience for many couples. Commonly, it is preceded by known unhappiness and long discussions at resolving the painful state. Less commonly, there are [...]
Why do some long time couples divorce?
It is often surprising when some couples who have been married for twenty-five or more years announce that they are divorcing. Common expectations are that after so many years together pairs have learned to deal with [...]
Should we stay together for the sake of the children?
Some couples have lost hope that their relationship with each other is salvageable. However, loving their children as they do, and fearing the impact of divorce on their children, they question the wisdom of parting while [...]
The many losses of divorce
The decision to divorce is a very hard. It involves breaking up a family and shattering a past. Divorce is painful, mind altering, emotionally wrenching and a life-impacting event. Everyone who has experienced divorce can attest [...]
How to recover from the fallout of divorce
How to recover from the fallout of divorce Divorce is a difficult and painful experience, even for those who initiate it. It is the outcome of lost hope, broken dreams, shattered love, and a deep personal [...]
The differences love and hate create in divorce.
Have you ever wondered about the pain, cruelty, insensitivity and selfishness some couples exhibit when they divorce? Have you ever asked yourself- “how can two people who chose each other and committed to everlasting love, end [...]
When a man leaves a woman (Part 3)
A man or woman, who leaves a partner due to an affair, may experience the five emotional and behavioral stages of the compounded divorce. Demonizing the spouse to justify abandoning the family, rewriting history in negative [...]
When a man leaves a woman (Part 2)
Part 1 of this column described the three types of divorces: The Mutual Agreement, The Unilateral (decided by one mate), and the Compounded divorce patterns. The five emotional stages within the Compounded style, (which involves a [...]
When a man leaves a woman (Part 1)
It may seem that most divorces are similar in natures. Actually, there are different types of divorces, each of them with its own unique psychological characteristics and emotional intensity. We have the Mutual Agreement pattern of [...]
