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Alternatives to divorce exist

Alternatives to divorce exist

This article follows a previous column of mine titled Downsides to Divorce, published in the Santa Cruz Sentinel on December 12, 2007 and is also available on my website: relationshipmatters.com under Articles, section F. Divorce Divorce [...]

Downsides to divorce

Downsides to divorce

Though the choice to divorce is rarely impulsive, it is often not fully thought through. Most individuals, who reach this decision, believe that they have given it some time, attempted to improve the marriage, considered the [...]

Recovering from being abruptly left by a partner

Recovering from being abruptly left by a partner

Divorce, the outcome of lost connection and hope for change, is a devastating experience for many couples. Commonly, it is preceded by known unhappiness and long discussions at resolving the painful state. Less commonly, there are [...]

Why do some long time couples divorce?

Why do some long time couples divorce?

It is often surprising when some couples who have been married for twenty-five or more years announce that they are divorcing. Common expectations are that after so many years together pairs have learned to deal with [...]

Should we stay together for the sake of the children?

Should we stay together for the sake of the children?

Some couples have lost hope that their relationship with each other is salvageable. However, loving their children as they do, and fearing the impact of divorce on their children, they question the wisdom of parting while [...]

The many losses of divorce

The many losses of divorce

The decision to divorce is a very hard. It involves breaking up a family and shattering a past. Divorce is painful, mind altering, emotionally wrenching and a life-impacting event. Everyone who has experienced divorce can attest [...]

How to recover from the fallout of divorce

How to recover from the fallout of divorce

Divorce is a difficult and painful experience, even for those who initiate it. It is the outcome of lost hope, broken dreams, shattered love, and a deep personal failure. The process of separating two previously entwined [...]

The differences love and hate create in divorce.

The differences love and hate create in divorce.

Have you ever wondered about the pain, cruelty, insensitivity and selfishness some couples exhibit when they divorce? Have you ever asked yourself- “how can two people who chose each other and committed to everlasting love, end [...]